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Have you recently learned that your spouse is or has been cheating on you? If you have, you may be itching to confront them. But when you do, you may want to use caution. There are times when confronting a cheating spouse can turn dangerous.
Is your spouse known to have a temper? If so, being alone may not be the best way to accuse your spouse of cheating on you or showing them the proof that you have. This is especially true if you intend to end your relationship or ask for a divorce. If possible, have a trusted friend, family member, or police officer with you at your home.
With that said, there are people who you do not want to have with you when you confront your spouse: your children. Never confront a cheating spouse or even accuse them of cheating in front of your children. It doesn’t matter if your children are newborns or teenagers. Teens know about cheating and you do not want drag them into any messiness. This could scar them. Newborns will have no clue what you are talking about, but the raised voices may be scary and overwhelming for them.
If your spouse is abusive, either verbally or physically, use your best judgment. Have a trusted friend, relative, or the police on standby. If your spouse starts to get violent or upset with you for bringing up their cheating, take action immediately. Call for help or get out of your house and do not return until they are gone or you have the police with you. Never put yourself in harms way when confronting a cheating spouse.
Another situation where you want to be cautious when calling out a cheating spouse is if you aren’t ready to walk out the door. Yes, you have every right to be in your home and your spouse may be the one who should leave, but that doesn’t mean the situation will go that way. If your spouse refuses to leave your home, even just for a temporary break, are you prepared to? What about your children, if you are a parent? If your main goal is to end your relationship with your cheating spouse, be sure to have a set plan in place for you and your family.
Finally, reconsider confronting a cheating spouse if you don’t have any proof. Have you seen your spouse on a date with another woman? Have you seen the phone or credit card bills with suspicious or out of the ordinary line items? If you haven’t, it may be best to wait until you know for sure that your spouse is cheating. Your spouse may completely deny having an affair if you don’t come prepared with facts. And even worse, they may not even be cheating on you and now you look like the crazy wife!
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