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Breakups are hard! And if you’ve landed on this article, you’re probably looking to learn how to stay strong after ending a relationship. The truth is, ending a relationship is one of the hardest things we have to do sometimes. It’s difficult when you’re the one that gets dumped, but even if it’s you ending a relationship, it’s still incredibly painful.
Breakups are easier when one person is cheating or treating the other badly. But when you’re ending a relationship over small things, you can end up doubting your decision, especially when things get lonely. It’s all too easy to convince yourself that things weren’t so bad after all, you miss your ex. Then, you start to think about taking them back.
It’s important, however, to stay strong after ending a relationship. And if you find yourself doubting your decision, you need to think back to the things that made you want to break up in the first place.
If you ended the relationship because he was just not there for you when you needed him, for example, think back on how you felt when you really needed a shoulder to cry on and he wasn’t willing or even present. The likelihood that he changes when you take him back is zero, sis! ZERO!
If it just didn’t feel “right” and you just didn’t have strong enough feelings for him, then when you find yourself sad and lonely it can be really easy to tell yourself you were wrong for letting him go. You might decide that you can develop feelings for him, and that you just didn’t try hard enough before. But this logic is flawed!
It’s not up to you to force or train yourself into developing feelings for someone. It either happens naturally and with time, or it doesn’t. No matter how hard you try, if you’re not in love with someone and they’re just not the one for you, you’re not going to be able to, all of a sudden, just make it happen.
And besides, there’s no rule that says you can’t keep at least be friends with an ex. Ending a relationship completely might not be necessary. If they’re open to it, a friendship could be the key to helping both of you heal.
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