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Many people gets to experience that rush of emotions that hit at the beginning of any relationship. You just can’t get enough of each other and you spend as much time as you can together. There’s enough passion to heat all of NYC! But even with that initial rush, sometimes you just fall out of love.
This “honeymoon phase” can last for up to six months, maybe a little longer if you’re lucky. Then, suddenly, things start to change. It’s not quite as important that you spend every waking moment together. And now, you tend to like doing things on your own. In addition, those quirky little habits that you found so endearing are now starting to get on your last nerve. What’s going on here?
One possibility is that the relationship that you thought you had was more infatuation than love. When you’re truly in love with someone, that other person doesn’t have to be perfect. And the longer you’re with someone you love, the more in love you’ll become. Infatuation is more like being “in lust” with someone. It’s temporary. It’s fleeting. There’s that constant physical longing for each other that will burn out eventually.
On the other hand, maybe you did find real leave and it’s not infatuation. You took things slowly as you got to know your partner and you didn’t rush right into a physical relationship. The passion was there, not anymore. The relationship wasn’t a falling meteor that burned itself out quickly. Still, you found yourself not feeling the same way anymore. So now what?
First of all, you’ll need to start asking yourself some pretty serious questions. Are you still sexually attracted to this person? Do you love spending time with them? How do you feel when you think about leaving and never seeing them again? The answers to these questions will give you a lot of information regarding how you feel about the relationship. If you’re no longer interested in having sex with this person, you prefer reading a book to being with them, and you kind of don’t really care if you’re not with them any longer, the fire of love has died out.
There’s not always a reason these things happen. Like we said, sometimes you just fall out of love and it’s no one’s fault. But if it happens to you, it’s time to pick yourself up, move on, and get back in the game to find that everlasing love.
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