Be The Bigger Person When Handling Conflict With Your Loved One

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You hear of lovers brawls in the news and you see reality stars fighting for all sorts of reason. Being rude isn’t only allowed. It’s been sensationalized by the media as well. It’s no wonder why so many people think it is okay. Well, it’s time to change things. If you’re in a pickle, you need to be the bigger person when handling conflict with your loved one.

When you go out with your SO, treat them with kindness. You need to coexist with everyone in this world. Otherwise, it’s going to be a lonely place for you. Remember, the way you act is indicative of the kind of person you are. You get respect by being respectful.

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It’s Never Okay

There are those that say being rude is okay because they feel they’re on the right side. These people are immature and childish. And unfortunately, growing up is very hard for some people. But fighting fire with fire never works. Someone has to take the high road. And if you’re capable, you should do it.

This doesn’t mean you’re accepting their rude behavior because you’re a door mat. It just means you have more emotional maturity than the other person, regardless of whether they see it that way or not.

Make It Pleasant

Unpleasant encounters happen to everyone. But you have to understand that no two people are alike. You’ll encounter rude people and not rude people. And non-rude people still have moments of weakness that make them rude from time to time. Every person is different. Every moment is different.

Regardless of the outcome you get, it’s always best to be nice. More importantly, if this is someone you love who’s being rude to you, you need to give your SO the benefit of the doubt. There’s a good explanation as to why they reacted the way he did. Then, check yourself every now and then. You’re more likely to get what you want when you’re vigilant about your attitude.

Some people spend so much time pointing out the mistakes of others that they aren’t aware of their weaknesses. Never be this kind of person. At this point, hone in on your personality, work at becoming better, and know that there’s no excuse for being rude.

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So what if not every person is this way? Then let these people deal with the repercussions while you go about your life. If your SO is ALWAYS being rude to you, they shouldn’t be your SO. If they don’t know how to apologize, leave ’em alone!

Just keep thinking about the long-term effects of having an attitude change. Stop being rude and you’ll slowly start to earn the respect of the people that love you most. Your SO will go out of his way for you, and that’s because he genuinely cares for you. If he abuses your kindness, then it may be time to move on and look for someone who does appreciate the change. Fighting him on it or being rude won’t make for a happy union anyways.

Whatever you do, always remember to be the bigger person when handling conflict with your loved one.

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By Emily Kato

Emily Kato is a Make Him Yours XO contributor based in Boston, MA.

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