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Loving too deep, too fast can bring relationship problems. How many times have you fallen head-first in love with someone only to learn that they’re not quite in the same place emotionally as you are? It’s a common story that usually leads to heartbreak and misery.
You might feel like you found Prince Charming or Miss Right. But your partner might see things as little differently. Their viewpoint could possibly be more in line with just having some fun. Perhaps they’re just discovering their feelings for you and aren’t quite sure what they all mean yet.
When there’s a distinct difference in the speed you’re both moving things forward, this can sometimes be a source of insecurity for one person. The other may begin to feel pressured.
Both of these behaviors will break down a relationship before it even starts.
It’s important to remember that not everyone will feel the same things at the same time. Expecting your partner to fall in love at precisely the same rate as you is unrealistic.
Far too many promising relationships end because one person is happy to express feelings of love and devotion and even begin planning the wedding. But the other is still trying to make sense of the things he or she is feeling.
This lack of synchronicity usually leads to arguments and feelings of rejection by the person who is feeling more intently at that time. It’s been said that the person who loves least has the most power in the relationship.
The truth is, this is not rejection at all. You’re simply dealing with a person who may have more things to deal with before allowing feelings of love to come to the surface. They just might not be fully ready for love.
Loving too deep, too fast can bring relationship problems. But before you give in to false feelings of rejections, give it some more time. Spend time doing fun things together that will allow your partner to appreciate your qualities and you’ll find the feelings will develop more freely when they’re given time and space to do so.
Remember that the happiest relationships involve respect for each others feelings and needs.
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