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Wow, it can really be tough to have to admit that you have messed up. No one likes to admit they are wrong. But one of the big differences between a mature adult and an immature person is the ability to admit when you are wrong and offer a sincere apology. So, if you did something wrong, you should say sorry to your boyfriend. Like, immediately.
Now, I do want to point out that some insecure people will actually go too far the other way. They will apologize just to keep the peace even if they didn’t actually do anything wrong. This is a huge mistake. This is another form or insecurity and immaturity and one that you don’t want to emulate.
If you are wrong then apologize, but don’t tell someone you’re sorry if you aren’t wrong, just because you are afraid of some confrontation. Especially with a significant other. This will create a very unhealthy dynamic in your relationship.
I’ve seen this a lot with a few of my friends (though I’m sure men do it too). These woman are in what people call “borderline” relationships. They aren’t horrible but they’re not as good as they could be.
One of the problems is that a couple of my friends are in relationships with guys who are, themselves, insecure and immature. Unfortunately, the guys seem to need to walk all over their women in order to feel good about themselves.
The women, in turn, try to avoid conflict at all costs. So, they will apologize all the time, even when they have nothing to apologize for. Just to keep the peace.
So, if you are going to say sorry to your boyfriend, make sure you really have something to say you are sorry about.
Additionally, a sorry should come with the intention not to commit the same wrong again. Apologizing is a good thing to do when you’re wrong. But it doesn’t mean as much if you turn around and do the same things over and over again.
So, a huge element of a sincere apology should be that you will change your behavior and not make the same mistake again. Without you silently making that commitment to yourself when you say the apology, it will lack sincerity. It’ll just be words with no substance.
The exact way you apologize can vary from person to person and relationship to relationship. You know your guy better than I do, so you have to determine what type of apology is best. Sometimes, just telling him in a sincere manner that you’re sorry is the best way to go.
Other times, a card may be good. Or, perhaps making his favorite meal or buying him a gift. Again, the exact form the apology takes will be dependent upon the severity of the offense as well as the personalities of you and your guy.
A word of advice: If you do use a gesture to apologize such as making his favorite meal, don’t think that means you don’t have to say the words “I’m sorry”, too. No matter what you do to apologize, always say the words, too. Sometimes it sucks to admit you did something wrong. But if you have to do it.
If you’re wrong and you know it, you should say sorry to your boyfriend. Find the best way to say sorry to him and he’ll be more likely to forgive you for your mistake.
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