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Most of us are ok with the idea of getting a little “kinky” every now and then. Of course, what’s considered kinky can vary greatly from one person to another or one couple to another. If you want to spice things up with your guy and you’re wondering how to talk dirty to your boyfriend, this article may help.
First of all, before you start letting the dirty talk flow, make sure your guy would be comfortable with this type of talk. No all people are. If you are in the early stages of a relationship, you may want to go a little slowly on this front.
If you are only just starting to get to know each other, talking dirty may not be a good way to go. There are actually two reasons for this:
- For one, it’s possible he could be offended. Or, at minimum, he may think less of you. If he doesn’t actually know you that well, he may get the wrong impression of you. I wouldn’t do this too early in the relationship.
- He may expect this all the time. Again, if the two of you are just starting out and don’t really know each other that well, this could set a precedent for the way he thinks your sex life will be all the time.
If you are ok with doing this all the time, that is fine. But if you view talking dirty as one of those things you do every once in a while, you want to be careful you don’t give him the wrong idea.
Another thing to think about is what the two of you consider to be talking dirty. I mean, do you swear or do you both prefer more of a “naughty” than a “dirty”. There are different degrees and it is best if you both determine which degree you are both turned on by and most comfortable with.
Also, do you like it if he talks dirty to you too? And, what do you consider to be dirty? Often this type of talk will be borderline so you need to make sure you are comfortable with it.
Many women say that they are very uncomfortable with talking dirty to their guy the first few times. They feel embarrassed or silly. As with most things, it is a matter of practice. For most women, the more you do it the more comfortable you will be with it.
If you are in a good, loving and respectful relationship, your guy should help you to feel more comfortable. Allow him to guide you and to let you know what he likes to hear. You are a team and this situation is no exception.
Any type of sexual activity is dependent upon a big trust level between the two partners. If you want to spice things up, that is great. But don’t try it if you don’t know him very well or your relationship is one that isn’t based on mutual trust, love and respect.
If you are asking “how to talk dirty to my boyfriend” take these tips into consideration.
Care to share some of your own super secret tips? Dish ’em in the comments section!