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You found the love of your life. You got married, had kids, and live a happy life. But what happens when your daughter grows up and does the same thing? Having your little girl get a boyfriend can be a worrisome experience. You want what is best for her and to protect her, and are wary of handing her over to some guy you do not even know. But if you’re reading this article, you’re wondering what to do when your daughter wants her boyfriend to move in. If that’s the case, keep reading.
Having a daughter is tough enough. Kids grow up too fast! But what can make this even worse is when your daughter wants her boyfriend to move in. This happens all too often and can cause quite the storm of problems in your household. Obviously, you would say no and refuse to let some strange boy live under the same roof as you and your family.
However, as absurd as it may seem, it might not be all that bad. Certainly, you would need to be careful, learn a bit about him and his situation, and find out why he even needs a place to live. But if you take the necessary steps and precautions, it is not all that bad.
If the boyfriend checks out and has a valid reason for needing a place to stay, you could lend him your garage. By keeping him locked out of the main household, he poses no real danger to you or your family. And it provides a good way of getting to know him and sizing him up. There are ways to make it work.
You might be shaking your head, thinking you are reading something written by a crazy person. But I know from life experience that good can come of this situation. When I was younger, one of my close friends was in this very situation. She wanted her boyfriend to move in. (She was 30 years old and still living at home, but some parents still view us older gals as their baby girls!) Her man had a TON of family problems so needed a place to stay.
Her mother let him live in the garage for several months before allowing him into the actual house. He ended up staying with them for two years before eventually marrying my friend. Today, they live as a happy couple and are planning to have a child together.
This story obviously does not relate to every circumstance. But it goes to show that allowing your daughter’s boyfriend to move in is not always a bad idea. And it also stresses the importance of knowing the situation at hand and being cautious.
Being caught up in a bunch of family drama is one thing. But if your daughter’s boyfriend has suspicious reasons, then you would be right to turn him away. Or, at least investigate to find the truth behind those reasons.
Even though your daughter wants her boyfriend to move in, it’s ultimately your household. So, you must make sure you do what is best for your family.
Just try to remember that it can work out for the best. Make sure to give your daughter’s boyfriend a fair hearing, he may very well end up an outstanding individual who really needed a place to stay and wasn’t planning on doing anything sneaky.
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