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Most of us hate to mess up a good thing. And when we make a mistake with our boyfriends it’s not always easy to know how to say sorry to your boyfriend. There are a lot of ways you can go about it. But whatever approach you use, make sure that your apology is sincere.
How receptive your boyfriend will be to your apology depends on many things. In some cases, the way you apologize may have to be a little different depending on the circumstances. But, for the most part, as long as you offer a heart felt apology, your boyfriend will probably forgive you.
If you’ve done the same thing over and over again and you are apologizing for the umpteenth time, it’s not very likely that he will consider your apology to be heart felt. He will probably just get sick of you doing the same old thing over and over again. And sooner or later, he will walk away if you keep it up.
But for something that isn’t a chronic problem, your best bet is to honestly tell him that you’re sorry for what you did (or said). And also tell him that you’ll never do it again. The key part is meaning it. You have to commit to not making that mistake again. If you can’t commit to it, don’t promise you will.
Depending on the situation, you may even want to offer an explanation of why you did or said what caused the problem. Sometimes, it can be helpful for the other person to forgive you if they realize that you weren’t trying to be mean. You may just have been going through something.
That knowledge coupled with an apology can go a very long way, as long as you never do it again.
While I personally think it’s always a good idea to make a verbal apology, sometimes that’s just not enough. In those cases, after you’ve apologized, it can be a good idea to grovel a little bit.
Let him choose the movie that you go to. Or, let him pick out the restaurant for your next date. For a little while, as you do your penance, let him have his own way as part of your apology.
You do have to be a little careful with this strategy though. If your guy is a little on the selfish side to begin with, this technique may cause more problems than it solves. He may get used to this behavior and expect it from now on.
The same thing is true for the seduction apology. If your guy is the type of guy who pouts when he doesn’t get his own way, you may be opening up a can of worms if you try to apologize by seducing him. That is just another game and it’s not the sign of a completely healthy relationship.
Ultimately, you’re both grownups. So, when you mess up, act like a grown up and take the time to say sorry to your boyfriend. All the other things: the seductions, the favorite movie, and the grovelling should all just be icing on the apology; they shouldn’t be the whole apology.
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