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Sometimes, wading through all the testosterone laced egos can be quite a challenge when trying to get boyfriend. All you want is someone to make you feel special and love you for who you are. I have some tips to make this process a little easier. The first thing you have to do is understand that you have to have the right mindset to get boyfriend. If you have been hurt in the past, have you done the work to fix your heart? If you have, then you can proceed. But if you haven’t, know that you’re not in the right head space to find your perfect match. If you try while you’re still damaged, you will only repeat the familiar crappy cycle.
Find stability and self-esteem within yourself and learn to be strong on your own before becoming part of a couple. No one can give you any of these things but you. Not your parents, not your siblings, and certainly not a boyfriend.
When you feel strong and confident in yourself, then go ahead and make a list of the qualities you like in a boy. Is he cute? Respectful? Makes you laugh? Smart? And, does he know where he’s going in life? This last one may be optional given the age of the boy and if you are all still in middle school and high school. But otherwise, ambition is oh so sexy!
The best way to attract the type of man you really want is to show off your best traits. He will be attracted to how smart you are and if you carry yourself well.
Once you’ve found the boy you want to date, take an interest in the things he does. If he plays football or basketball, go to his games and cheer the loudest. Then ask him to walk you home after the game.
If you think this is too bold a move for you, you could always ask one of your friends to give him the heads up that you like him. Be careful here though. If you don’t have the nerve to speak to him face-to-face and your friend does, then he may get interested in her and not you. It is best to handle these situations on your own. At the very least, he might find you childish if you run away.
If you’re older (not in high school anymore), start actually looking around at work for anyone who may have his eye on you. Invite him out for coffee or lunch. If you’re not into dating at work, pick up some after work activities and start scoping.
Find other ways to meet men besides going to bars and night clubs. Some relationships have stood the test of time when the couple met in a bar. But not too many do and you need to know that the man you are interested in is looking for more. Unless, of course, all you want a good time, too.
Following these tips should help you get boyfriend when you are ready. Remember, you have to have the right mindset to get a boyfriend. So fix yourself first. Then, make your list of favorite traits that you find attractive in men and try to get as close as you can to matching all of them. You won’t match them all but try to get as close as you can. If nothing else works, join an online dating app or service.
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