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If you stumbled upon this blog, you’re probably wondering: should you take your man home for the holidays? If you’re lucky, then you’ve got a family that’s supportive of you and the decisions you make. These families welcome new boyfriends with open arms as a potential new family member someday. Belonging to a family like this means that you don’t have to hide who you’re dating. He may not be rich enough, handsome enough, the right ethnicity, or have a high enough standing in his community. But it doesn’t matter. You can relax about introducing your new man to your family and know that everything will be fine.
The unfortunate other side of the coin are the families that are controlling and judgmental. With these families, it doesn’t matter who you bring home to meet them. If he’s not a Kennedy or a Rockefeller, then you may as well stay single forever. He’ll be grilled by all members of your family and most likely will feel unwelcome. No one is ever going to meet the approval of these people, which sucks! It’s people that come from these families that take off and move as far away as they can get.
In the end, it’s really up to you as to whether your new boyfriend is ready to take on your family, especially during the holidays. Now, if your family is more like the first type, the holidays can be the perfect time to introduce him.
On the other hand, if your family fits in mostly with the second type, you probably want to think long and hard about whether you’ll risk ruining the holidays by exposing your boyfriend to their rudeness and insanity. The thing you need to understand before making this decision is that it’s not your fault that your family doesn’t know how to treat people. In fact, you should probably consider yourself lucky at having dodged that bullet of inherited madness and inhospitality. Sometimes, it just works out that way.
The holidays are meant to be a happy time and you should be able to celebrate it as such with your new man and your family. But unfortunately it doesn’t always work that way. So, if you’re still wondering should you take your man home for the holidays, the short answer is this: Ultimately, you know your family and your man better than I do. And if it feels like it’s worth the risk, do it. If not, find a more low-pressure time to bring him around.
Have you brought a SO to meet your family during a holiday? How did it go? Let us know in the comments!