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If one of your resolutions for the New Year was to find, or improve, a relationship that you can be committed to then it may be easier than you thought. Commitment in the new year, or anytime, isn’t that hard to achieve. In fact, all you have to do is follow these simple rules to achieve commitment in the new year.
Achieving commitment in the new year will come down to one thing. Are you really sure you really want commitment with this person?
Obvious, I know. But do you have any idea how many people completely overlook this one simple rule? So many people think they want to be in a committed relationship. But in many cases, it isn’t even about them and what they want. It’s more about what they think they should do.
For example, when we get to a certain age, we are under a lot of pressure to “settle down”. The pressure can sometimes come from our parents, our friends, and especially society.
It’s easy to confuse that pressure with our own wants and needs. Many times, people will lie to themselves and convince themselves that they really do want to settle down. In reality, they don’t want to. But they feel guilty and feel like they are doing something wrong if they don’t.
When you do something, pretty much anything, just because you think you should, even though you don’t really want to, you’re just setting yourself up for failure.
Before you start going down the “commitment” road, stop and take a deep breath and make sure it really is what you want to do.
While compromise is an important ingredient in any successful relationship, whether romantic one or not, this isn’t something to compromise on.
If you really aren’t in a place where you want to be in a committed relationship but you go along with it because it’s what your partner wants, or you feel pressured to do it, you will fail.
A committed relationship can be challenging in the best of times and if it’s something you don’t even really want, it will be that much harder to keep that promise and truly commit to the relationship.
Another thing to keep in mind is that too many people will tell you that “a relationship takes work” or “relationships are hard”. How many times have you heard that from someone?
Well, I think that is wrong. I have been in both good and bad relationships. I can tell you that when you’re in a good, healthy relationship it really isn’t work at all. There is very little need for compromise since the two of you will see eye-to-eye on many issues.
When you do need to compromise, it is a true compromise where both of you give a little. Not what most people consider compromise, which is when only one person is giving and the other is only taking.
Make sure that before you promise to take the relationship to the next level, you’re truly in a relationship with the best possible person for you.
You and your partner can find true happiness and deepen the bond between you. Just follow these simple rules to achieve commitment in the new year.